Our Founder’s Fight Against Domestic Violence

Our Founder’s Fight Against Domestic Violence

⚡ MESSAGE FROM THE FOUNDER🌱 Confession Confession✨

During 23 years, I smiled while my world burned. I even thought that shielding the kids was enough.  I just wasn't aware—that there was/is NO excuse for abuse.

Kids swear they'll never copy the abusive parent. But chaos and control is all they know… and one day, they may become the abuser by default—hurting others!

This isn’t a textbook.  It’s a mirror.  A reflection of my own life, so you know you're not ALONE and more importantly, you're NOT at fault.

✍️ Dear Hearts, it’s you I’m addressing!

Had I known earlier about Generational Abuse and the repeating Cycle of Abuse — Tension ⇉ Explosion ⇉ Apology ⇉ Repeat —I would have recognized that history was playing 'on loop' in my marriage.

Instead of writing endless “contracts” and hoping for change, I should have taken my children and left. The patterns weren’t his fault alone — they were inherited (from his dear mother and grandma), ingrained, and impossible to heal without tools he didn’t have. I was not to blame.

Over 23 years, I lost myself to false hope and even Stockholm syndrome, being told that I needed “real punishment” to know “real life.” I was also told that his bucket had holes and that I needed to fill it with constant love without ever stopping. I tried but no amount of love could stop the leak.

This is what Generational Abuse does: if we don’t stop it, our children inherit it — regardless of gender.

So I built this site. Not for money, but because ...

**preventing child trauma and PTSD matters. **

 

Patterns repeat until someone strong-minded says: “Not on my watch!”

Lotsa love, Faezeh Parkes — Founder, MonkeyseeMonkeyDo 🙃

🌸 🌸 ✨ This short PTV ad was made about me —it shares a glimpse of my journey and why I created CHILDRENseeCHILDRENdo. Courtesy of PTV💛

Children See Children Do
🌿 This entire site is dedicated to my beloved ex - proof that even a quiet ripple can stir waves of hope for children everywhere.
Children See Children Do
✨ CLICK here to read a Chapter from my book-in-progress: "Bananas… My Chaotic Funny Life"
“At the gate of the garden some stand and look within, but do not care to enter.
Others step inside... but do not penetrate far.
Still others encircle this garden ...having enjoyed its full beauty, pass out again by the same gate.
But there are always some who enter and, becoming intoxicated with the splendour of what they behold, remain for life to tend the garden.”

Acknowledgements

ChildrenseeChildrendo DreamTeam

The art of listening to kids - with Rose Catalano (Artist)

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⚠️ Heads-up from the heartbreak frontline:

Sometimes, the version of your child the world sees isn’t the one you get at home. That gap can break you.
They might echo old wounds—“liar,” “manipulator”—words they grew up hearing. And yes… they do.
You stumble, shrink into survival mode, scrambling to prove your worth to the child you once shielded.

💥 Raise one eyebrow at violence. Raise one child with care. Boom—generational cycle interrupted.
This isn’t rocket science. It’s ripple science.
Help one kid stop copying chaos, and future kids will thank you (probably in a group chat).
One child. One safe home. A thousand ancestors sigh in relief.

🌀 Prevention isn’t a luxury. It’s survival.